I will be writing another post on my "public" blog regarding this topic, but as a quick update -
It depends on who you talk to. Michael seems to think that the only reason my sister is upset about us talking about the next baby because she wants to be around and present in the baby's life. I hope he's right.
But there is something deeper telling me he's not. She brought up the topic many times (mostly in passing) this weekend. Every time she did, we didn't linger on it. I didn't defend ourselves or even talk about our reasons (which is why I'll be writing another post soon), but I felt like she wouldn't have brought it up so many times if she wasn't upset about it. There is just something there that tells me she is upset because of reasons having to do with her not having a baby of her own at this point in time.
But at least she didn't pry for reasons from us. She brought it up often, but we were pretty quick to move on each time it came up. I'm sure she played a part in not lingering on the topic.
In her defense, though, Michael's comments got me thinking. And as it stands now... if we stick to "our plan" and my sister sticks to her plan to move back - then she will miss the same exact period of time in the next baby's life as she did for Ellie when we were in MD. It's funny how coincidences pop up in life, isn't it?
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If you are a family member then that means you've stumbled on my secret blog. Busted! The intention of this blog was to provide a place to post the stories that I felt might offend or upset any family members. I did not want to upset you, but I still wanted to share my stories (some funny and some not) with others. Hopefully you understand! I love you!
2 comments:
I don't know the background on this -- does your sister want a baby right now? If so, I would bet that your intuition is picking up on something. I've seen siblings hurt by another's milestones because they themselves wish for those goals. Or maybe it's the timing issue. I think you handled this well -- we have to make the decisions that are right for us, not others...
Thanks! In short, my sister (4 years younger than me) seems to feel like milestones in her life should occur at the same time as mine. She gets upset about me being "first" all the time.
I'm sure I can't place all the blame on her, but we always seem to be very competitive, even if we're really close. Maybe I just haven't gotten over how she was when she was younger. Who knows?
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