Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Room for improvement
I think I need to work on not getting defensive when people make comments about Ellie or her behavior. I am realizing that it's a pet-peeve of mine that people comment on Ellie being fussy when she's hungry or tired. Or, on a related note, when people make a comment about trying to stick to a somewhat rigid schedule. I know that this is partly lingering frustration from my trip to the beach, but I am sure that it's an area in which it would be worthwhile for me to try harder to just ignore and not respond to what someone says, especially if that someone doesn't mean anything bad by it.
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Or maybe I need to work on not getting upset when someone makes a comment about being angry and defensive when it is more likely just tired and pregnant. Hmmm... So many options to interpret a situation.
I think that in most cases, people don't mean anything negative behind their comments. For some reason we like to dole out advice to anyone about anything we think we know something about. Most of the time it is well meaning.
The only thing you can control is how you feel and respond. And yes, being a busy mom with another little one the way can push your patience.
I would try (try!) not to be bothered. It might be difficult but you'll feel a bit better about it in the future.
haha, your comment on your post made me laugh.
Don't be so hard on yourself for being annoyed. Because you know what? The truth is, it's annoying. It's annoying when people make comments that are completely baseless. And yet people do it all the time despite the universal hatred of being judged.
What to do?
Hmm. I am not great about things like this. I will sometimes decide I have to say something.
Scenario:
"Wow, she's so outta hand! What's gotten into her!"
response A, joking: "haha, those 2 year olds, can never seem to handle a full work schedule without breaking down! I think maybe the bushels are too heavy."
response B, snippy: "hmm, maybe you've forgotten (or don't know) what kids are like?"
response C, sarcastic: "how nice of you to make such a helpful blanket statement."
response D, honest: "I'm kindof uncomfortable about that statement/judgement. I realize you don't always see her like I do but this is actually common among kids her age and not so much to do with her personally. Kids that are hungry or tired or whatever need understanding and support."
response E, collaborative: "I'm sure we've both forgotten what we were like at this age but I bet it was pretty similar!"
response F, ignoring: "Let me go see what she needs. She could be hungry. Excuse me."
This kind of thing irritates me too! I get it with my DOG, people are such buttinskies.
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