Ok, I might have a small issue coming up in my near future. I recently sent a post to the mom's group (who, by the way, have been much better at responding lately) asking if anyone would be interested in having scrapbooking nights. In MD, I had a small group of girl friends who would meet every week to work on scrapbooks. The real reason was to get out of the house and have some girl time, but the scrapbooks made for a nice excuse.
Anyway, I got a handful of responses, which is exciting. So what's the problem?
The problem is this... One of the moms who responded is the person who sent out the original "Pox Party" post that I mentioned on my other blog. I do not know if any of the other mommies interested in scrapbooking are the same as others who responded with a different opinion than my own.
But I do know that one mommy is a Pox Party Person! UGH. I'm sure that she is a nice lady, but can I seriously expect to become friends with her, knowing now how strongly the topic of Pox Parties just upsets me?
But I can't really just leave her out, can I? Ugh.
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Monday, July 14, 2008
3 months in
John, who started work on the same day as I did, informed me that today marks our three months of working here. Do you know what that means? That means we've reached our minimum time to wait until we try getting pregnant again. The way we figured it, we had to wait at least 3 months and then have a 9 month pregnancy to receive my full maternity leave benefits.
Hmm... On further thought, maybe we should wait another month in case the baby is born early. That would suck to be denied benefits just because of a premature birth.
Hmm... On further thought, maybe we should wait another month in case the baby is born early. That would suck to be denied benefits just because of a premature birth.
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
Pappy's Girl
Ok, I fully admit that they were probably just trying to come up with a nice gift idea for Pappy, but when I saw a collage of pictures of Ellie's step-cousin (my dad's wife's grand-daughter) with "Pappy's Girl" in big letters across the bottom, I couldn't help but be a little insulted. What does that make my little girl?
I know it's silly of me, but I did feel better to know I wasn't the only one it upset. My sister commented on it. Michael commented on it. Even Justin (my brother-in-law) noticed. I guess I just find it difficult to imagine myself giving such a gift when I know that Pappy has another grand-daughter, who is also (maybe even more so) "Pappy's Girl".
I know it's silly of me, but I did feel better to know I wasn't the only one it upset. My sister commented on it. Michael commented on it. Even Justin (my brother-in-law) noticed. I guess I just find it difficult to imagine myself giving such a gift when I know that Pappy has another grand-daughter, who is also (maybe even more so) "Pappy's Girl".
Monday, June 23, 2008
Parenting comments
I guess it's naive of me to think that people won't talk about our parenting skills and whether or not they think we're doing ok, but it does bother me.
Last night my sister commened on how my mom commented on "Merlin" being a bad name for a dog. This led to me asking if my mom made any comments on the names we picked for the baby. This led to me asking if she's made any comments on our parenting skills in general. I should not have asked.
It's not that it's bad or anything. Maybe my sister was being nice and sparing me any details, but she did say that both of my parents have commented on us being overly protective of Ellie.
Why does this bother me so much? Do I really need my parents to think that I'm doing everything great? Or maybe everyone thinks I'm overly protective of her? Or, is this an opinion that they made at the beginning and just haven't modified it as Ellie grows? What else have they said?
I'm not sure why it bothers me so much. Maybe it's because I don't think it's true. I do think that we are protective of Ellie, but not overly so. In fact, we've gotten the opposite comments from our friends - comments on "you are both so relaxed" when it comes to us watching nervously as Ellie approaches the edge of a small staircase, with the grass just two feet below. We try not to jump to rescue her all the time. It's not easy being relaxed.
I think that's what bothers me so much about my parents comments. We work hard at not being overbearing so it hurts my feelings to hear that they think we are being so. I really wonder why they think that. Do they still think so? I wish they could adjust their opinions instead of sticking to the first impressions they got. Or maybe they have? Maybe the problem is that my sister just hasn't heard the new opinions.
UGH. Stop it. It's not that big of a deal.
Last night my sister commened on how my mom commented on "Merlin" being a bad name for a dog. This led to me asking if my mom made any comments on the names we picked for the baby. This led to me asking if she's made any comments on our parenting skills in general. I should not have asked.
It's not that it's bad or anything. Maybe my sister was being nice and sparing me any details, but she did say that both of my parents have commented on us being overly protective of Ellie.
Why does this bother me so much? Do I really need my parents to think that I'm doing everything great? Or maybe everyone thinks I'm overly protective of her? Or, is this an opinion that they made at the beginning and just haven't modified it as Ellie grows? What else have they said?
I'm not sure why it bothers me so much. Maybe it's because I don't think it's true. I do think that we are protective of Ellie, but not overly so. In fact, we've gotten the opposite comments from our friends - comments on "you are both so relaxed" when it comes to us watching nervously as Ellie approaches the edge of a small staircase, with the grass just two feet below. We try not to jump to rescue her all the time. It's not easy being relaxed.
I think that's what bothers me so much about my parents comments. We work hard at not being overbearing so it hurts my feelings to hear that they think we are being so. I really wonder why they think that. Do they still think so? I wish they could adjust their opinions instead of sticking to the first impressions they got. Or maybe they have? Maybe the problem is that my sister just hasn't heard the new opinions.
UGH. Stop it. It's not that big of a deal.
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
Mother's Day
It occured to me this morning that just because I am a mother now, it does not mean that I no longer have a mother of my own. I need to decide quickly what to get my mom for Mother's Day! Shhh!!! Don't tell her that I forgot!
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
Woe is me
You know, when I started this blog I expected to have to write in it more often. I suppose it's a good sign that I'm not, huh?
Living with my mother-in-law for the last couple of months has been quite an experience. Don't get me wrong, I think she's great and it ended up going so much better than it could have. However, it did allow me to see the person she really is, which is someone who isn't always as happy as she tries to pretend.
Last week Ellie got sick again with a 12 hour stomach flu. She was up all night puking (not fun with a baby!). A couple nights later I was up all night doing the same. Then it was Michael's turn. As it turns out, my mother-in-law got it next. Afterwards we had to listen to her complaining about it every time we talked to her.
"I got sick on my only day off in 3 months. It was my only day off in 3 months and I got sick. I haven't had a day off in 3 months and I got sick. I got sick and it was my only day off in 3 months. I got sick. My only day off in 3 months. In 3 months, I got only 1 day off and I got sick. I was sick on my 1 day off in 3 months."
UGH!!! Now I know two truths in life*. 1. It sucks to be sick and 2. It sucks to be sick. But, try being sick *AND* taking care of a demanding infant at the same time. Now, *that* isn't much fun!!!
* I actually know many truths. Just ask me sometime.
Living with my mother-in-law for the last couple of months has been quite an experience. Don't get me wrong, I think she's great and it ended up going so much better than it could have. However, it did allow me to see the person she really is, which is someone who isn't always as happy as she tries to pretend.
Last week Ellie got sick again with a 12 hour stomach flu. She was up all night puking (not fun with a baby!). A couple nights later I was up all night doing the same. Then it was Michael's turn. As it turns out, my mother-in-law got it next. Afterwards we had to listen to her complaining about it every time we talked to her.
"I got sick on my only day off in 3 months. It was my only day off in 3 months and I got sick. I haven't had a day off in 3 months and I got sick. I got sick and it was my only day off in 3 months. I got sick. My only day off in 3 months. In 3 months, I got only 1 day off and I got sick. I was sick on my 1 day off in 3 months."
UGH!!! Now I know two truths in life*. 1. It sucks to be sick and 2. It sucks to be sick. But, try being sick *AND* taking care of a demanding infant at the same time. Now, *that* isn't much fun!!!
* I actually know many truths. Just ask me sometime.
Thursday, March 20, 2008
Well, dangit!!
It's known to all (or at least all those who care) that I have recently moved back to CO, and that my stay in MD lasted much much longer than I ever thought it would. And Now I"m back home and it feels good. It just feels like home, even though MD was not an easy place to leave. How
Anyway, I just found out that my sister is moving to New York!!! UGH! she was one of the main reasons why we wanted to move back so badly!
I know that moving to NY is probably the best thing for her to do right now. They are only planning on staying for a couple years, long enough for her husband to go through PA school, but who knows what will happen? After all, my stay in MD was only supposed to be 2 year as well. Anyway, I do believe that it will be the best thing for my sister. It means that she will be able to establish her career a little more before starting to have a family (she said they would probably try to get pregnant this summer if they were staying in CO). I do think that would be best for her.
However, the selfish part of me agrees with the part of her that wants to have a baby so soon. I think that it would be great if we ended up having kids all about the same age. It would be nice to have them grow up to be close to each other. And there isn't anything I can do about changing when I start a family. That not-so-little girl isn't ever going back in.
So I'm finding myself in a strange place because I hate to see her go when I finally got back to CO. I I was secretively supportive of her decision to try to get pregnant ear, yet I do think that waiting is the best thing for her.
Ugh. Let's just say that it just sucks and I haven't come to terms with it yet.
Anyway, I just found out that my sister is moving to New York!!! UGH! she was one of the main reasons why we wanted to move back so badly!
I know that moving to NY is probably the best thing for her to do right now. They are only planning on staying for a couple years, long enough for her husband to go through PA school, but who knows what will happen? After all, my stay in MD was only supposed to be 2 year as well. Anyway, I do believe that it will be the best thing for my sister. It means that she will be able to establish her career a little more before starting to have a family (she said they would probably try to get pregnant this summer if they were staying in CO). I do think that would be best for her.
However, the selfish part of me agrees with the part of her that wants to have a baby so soon. I think that it would be great if we ended up having kids all about the same age. It would be nice to have them grow up to be close to each other. And there isn't anything I can do about changing when I start a family. That not-so-little girl isn't ever going back in.
So I'm finding myself in a strange place because I hate to see her go when I finally got back to CO. I I was secretively supportive of her decision to try to get pregnant ear, yet I do think that waiting is the best thing for her.
Ugh. Let's just say that it just sucks and I haven't come to terms with it yet.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
